You made your point in the team meeting, but no one acknowledged you. You told your significant other what you wanted, but he or she ignored your request.
Maybe you grew up feeling invisible all your life and you have become accustomed to being overlooked… to being invisible.
There is truly a more rewarding way to live. And if you are ready, it’s time for you to show up with more power and impact.
If you are up to the challenge, here are five ways to begin:
1. Observe Your Behavior
First, take the time to observe if you are unknowingly contributing to being invisible. Make a list of the times when you feel unacknowledged. Are there any patterns with your body language, the way you speak, or even the way you dress.
Do you only feel this way when you are part of high-powered groups or situations? Do you shrink back because you don’t feel as important, accomplished, or well-connected? Doing this exercise will help you to become more self-aware and to narrow down the possible sources of this problem.
2. Take Inventory of Your Value
Chances are you are not aware how valuable you are, the many strengths you bring to the table, or how powerful you are.
Take a step back and begin to take inventory. Write down all the reasons you would be an asset to others. Make a list of your strengths.
Make it a habit to review this list regularly to reprogram your mind. Focus on all your positive attributes so you never walk into any room feeling like you do not measure up.
3. Ask For What You Want
Feeling invisible can stem from being too passive. It’s time to practice being more assertive. If you know what you want, you don’t have to acquiesce to others too quickly. The next time you are tempted to roll over and play dead, STOP.
Muster up the courage to be bold and to ask for what you want. Open your mouth and speak. If it sounds too simple, it is. It takes practice. Those around you will probably be shocked to see you finally standing up for yourself, and they may just beging to notice your opinion more.
4. Disagree, If You Must
Confrontation is often seen as a bad thing. Individuals who struggle with acceptance or confronting others are not eager to make confrontation part of their communication or interactions.
However, in order to become more visible, you may have to disagree with someone or their approach to a situation.
Disagreeing doesn’t have to be an unpleasant experience. Build your argument, practice what you want to say, then present your message in a professional and courteous manner. Over time, this practice will feel more and more normal.
5. Enlist Support
It’s perfectly fine to ask for help. Maybe you need a powerful ally at the board meeting. An ally or advocate can reiterate to the team when they overlook your idea.
Perhaps you need to bounce your ideas with a friend or mentor. Whatever you choose, seeking the support and advice of a trusted person can be just as effective.
It’s Your Move!
What can you do today to build your confidence and own your power? If you have strategies that have worked for you, please share them.